Daring to Intentionally Love My Kids

December 13, 2011 at 9:44 pm 3 comments

As you can imagine. having a household of 7 people, 3 dogs and a cat is very hectic in itself…. but add to that the fact that there are 5 teenagers in the mix along with 2 parents that work and go to school…… and you have semi-controlled chaos!
Some of you know my family pretty well and have been around my kids. We are incredibly blessed with how awesome our kids are. They do well in school, they enjoy church, they are very helpful to those in need, and they have pretty fun personalities. However, when you mix in teen hormones, moods, anxiety, and overall just being imperfectly human….. some days lately have been a little challenging around our house.

Back in 2009, my son Tim, in passing, mentioned that we should do the Love Dare to each other to get better at treating each other well. I thought and prayed about it and I realized what a brilliant idea it was! So, at the end of 2009, I posted about my daily Family Love Dare on Facebook and I was overwhelmed at how many people messaged me daily about how it was helping to encourage them in their daily walk with their families.
I’m not sure how many of you have seen the movie Fireproof, but I do know that the Love Dare book has been very popular since shown in that movie. I was very happy to realize that it can easily be modified to help ANY type of relationship.
The idea is, you focus on a different idea every day for 40 days to help bring you closer to the person you are daring to better your relationship with.

This helped me so much 2 years ago in mending the condition of my heart towards my kids and I feel God leading me to do this journey once again. Back then I focused on just one kid during the whole 40 days, but I really feel like God is leading me to Take this Love Dare on for all 5 of my kids. I know this will be a challenge, especially with my oldest, James, being away at college in KY now… but I know God will guide me in how to make this work.
I am going to blog about this here for the next 40 days. I hope it will be as much of a blessing to you as I know it will be for my kids and I.

First, I’d like you to meet my kids…

From Left to right we have:

Stephen (18)  Stephen is an MP in the Army National Guard and he is starting at MTSU in January. He is the “chicken guy” at White Castle and he likes to play his guitar. He loves watching wrestling, looking at muscle cars, singing and in trying to be all God is calling him to be. Stephen also works with me helping the high school kids at church Thursday nights. He is really funny and he knows how to push every single button I have 🙂

Timothy (15) Tim is in 10th grade at BHS and is very smart. He is a funny guy and has a HUGE heart. He likes to figure out how things work and he is a very gifted writer, even though he doesn;t like to write much right now. Tim loves helping with the Middle School kids at church Wednesday nights. He likes Manga and has shown a great interest in archery. He is my faithful helper these days.

Dustin (17) Dustin is a Senior at BHS and seems to have a pretty serious case of serioritis. He has had a rough time since the end of last school year, but the Lord is doing some major work in him…. I just know it! He is planing on majoring in Audio Engineering at MTSU starting in the Fall of 2012 and he loves songwriting and listening to music. He works at Dairy Queen and helps with the Elementary kids at church on Sunday mornings. Dustin and I have always been really close, but that has changed recently and it makes me sad.

James (20)  Mr james is almost finished earning his AA degree in Culinary Arts at Sullivan University in Louisville. He works in the kitchen at O’Charley’s there and is just about to also start a paid internship at a five-star restraint in Louisville. He is planning on trying to get a job cooking for a cruise line once he graduates. He is one amazing young man! He loves to cook and calls pretty often. He is a hard worker and has done really well-being away from home. I miss him!!

Vicky (13) Oh goodness… My mini-me! Vicky is 13 going on 40 and is a big social butterfly! She loves watching tv and movies and loves listening to music. She has recently started to even like reading, which we are thrilled about. She is dyslexic and has and IEP at school while at the same time is brilliant beyond her years. She dances to the beat of her own drum and loves animals.

And ME??? Well, I am a precious daughter of the King! I am a 36 year young adoptive mom to these awesome 5 kids and I work part-time as a Personal Assistant to Yancy (www.yanynotnancy.com) and I am about to complete my Christian Life Coaching Certification. I have several clients who I coach weekly and I am also a Small Group Leader at my church. I volunteer with our church’s high school group as well every week. I have a women’s ministry that I am currently planning a retreat with for Spring 2012 and I have an awesome husband who is gone on business a lot and is currently earning his Masters of Divinity from Liberty University. So…. I keep pretty busy 🙂

Thank you for taking this journey with me. I know it is not going to be easy…. but I know it will be a blessing.

Tomorrow I will post all about Day 1.

I’ll take any and all prayers you want to give! HA!! 🙂


Entry filed under: Faith, Love Dare, Parenting, Step Parenting.

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3 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Christi Wilson  |  December 14, 2011 at 8:12 am

    Oh my gosh Megan, what an awesome idea!!!!! You have given me a wonderful idea of something to do for a challenging relationship I am struggling with, at the moment. Im going to have to pray about how to do this in that relationship!!! THANK YOU!!!

    • 2. megansmidt  |  December 14, 2011 at 12:15 pm

      Wonderful, Christi! I pray that the Lord blesses you on the journey you will take to heal the challenges you face in that relationship. Keep me posted, dear one!

  • 3. Crystal Molina  |  December 14, 2011 at 1:13 pm

    Love you Megan! You are an inspiration!


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