Love Dare Day 9: Love Makes Good Impressions

December 22, 2011 at 8:47 am 2 comments

Day 8: Love Is Not Jealous

Determine to become your kids’ biggest fan and reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help me set my heart to my kids and focus on their achievements, take yesterday’s list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with my kids how glad I am about a success each one has enjoyed.


Ok, I had a rough day yesterday. And jealousy happened, but not in the way I thought it would.

When Craig is out-of-town, I have to pick up Dustin from work at 12:15am. This does not work well with my schedule. I am a morning person, not a night person, and it is hard for me to get to sleep once I have to stay up so late.

I got about 4 hours sleep Monday night and the same on Tuesday night. I had to still work both days and do all the other stuff I do.

So, when Dustin didn’t get up until 1:30 yesterday afternoon, I did not handle it well. Now, I didn’t handle it horribly either, but the fact of the matter is that I WAS JEALOUS!!! Not only is my body not capable of sleeping that much, I have way too many responsibilities to have that luxury…….. He does too, but he does it anyway. I know I reacted the way I did because I was tired (See Day 6!!!).

I apologized to him for things I brought up that were not relevant to the situation, but I do think it was okay for me to let him know that it wasn’t okay to sleep that late. I did not yell, but I did bring things into the situation that weren’t necessary. I repented.


I told all of the kids the other day that I really wanted to take pictures of them on Thursday (today) since no one was working. I let them know that this was very important to me and I’d like it if they were available.


Anyway…. so yesterday I was taking James to get a haircut and he asked me if Stephen had told me that his work told him the day before that he needed to work on Thursday.


No. He. Didn’t.

So, I asked Stephen about it and yes, he is now working today. I let him know that the reason I was not happy about it is because I rarely tell them that ANYTHING is important to me and it was hard to get this coordinated and It makes me feel like what I want is not valued to him.

His response??? “It’s not a big deal, mom…. we can just do it during the day Thursday or on Saturday!”

OK Meg…… deep breaths……

I, as calmly as I could, let Stephen know that I have 2 coachings during the day today and I’m cleaning for my parents, that is why I was planning on taking the pictures early afternoon. Yes, Saturday will probably work, but the point is that I would have felt like he valued my time much more if he would have told his work that I had plans for him that day and he would get back to them about taking the shift. It was obvious….. I was jealous that work came before me.

It made me think about how the Lord so desperately wants time with all of us, but we put any number of things before Him. He has every right to be jealous… but he isn’t. He just patiently waits for us to come to Him.

Did I mention that I was really tired?

I worked some more that day and made dinner….. then it was time to relax. The kids and I watched 2 movies and Craig got home 🙂

All is now right with the world! Craig is home until 2012! YAY!!!

Ok, so about the Love Dare for Day 8….. I burned the list. That was very freeing. I was able to work in the successes when Craig was home adn we were all sitting around talking. The kids were all being very sarcastic with each other and Craig was chiming in, too….. So, when there would be a lull in the conversation, I would bring up a random success of one of the kids to Craig and we would gush over them a bit. It was really nice 🙂

Day 9: Love Makes Good Impressions

Think of a specific way I’d like to greet my kids today. I must do it with a smile and with enthusiasm. Then, determine to change my greeting to reflect my love for them.

1 Peter 5:14

 Greet each other with a kiss of love.

   Peace be with all of you who are in Christ.

Well, no one is awake yet, so I have a little time to think and pray about how i want to do this.  I love this dare! I can see how this can totally set the tone for my interactions with them for the day. Lord, help me be better today. Help me greet each of my kids in a way that expresses my deep love for them. I thank you in advance for how you will guide my steps. I love you Lord! In Jesus’ name I pray, amen.


Entry filed under: Faith, Love Dare, Parenting, Step Parenting.

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  • 1. Christi Wilson  |  December 22, 2011 at 10:57 am

    You are an awesome Mama Megan!!! I love reading your about this journey with your kids! Do they know what you are doing and that it’s from The Love Dare???? I am finding this very encouraging!!!

    • 2. megansmidt  |  December 22, 2011 at 11:12 am

      Thank you, Christi!!! It encourages me so much to read your words! As far as I know, the kids are not aware I’m doing this Love Dare on them. They have not said anything… And they typically don’t look at my Facebook page. I guess we’ll know if they respond to THIS!! lol!! Craig knows I am doing it and he is so supportive!


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