Love Dare Day 15: Love is Honorable

December 30, 2011 at 9:20 am 2 comments

Day 14: Love Takes Delight
Today I must purposely neglect and activity I would normally do so I can spend quality time with my kids. I need to do something they would love to do or a project they would really to work on. We need to just be together.
I am still feeling pretty yucky and just about everything I do is totally wearing me out. It took all I had to work yesterday and I was totally exhausted the rest of the day. It was EASY for me to want to cut out everything I was supposed to do and just rest, but I was able to be intentional about my time with my kids.
I told Craig about the day’s dare since he was working from home, and he decided he wanted to have the time with us. So, we decided to take the kids to Sweet CeCe’s BEFORE dinner for a treat!
We had a REALLY good time! Vicky just started her first fast and I am doing it with her…. we are fasting all refined sugar, so we were pleased to see that they had a yummy sugar-free flavor and fruit to top it with! She has such a sweet tooth… I am so proud of her for being dedicated to this fast!
When we got home, we had appetizers for dinner. The kids seemed to like the silliness of the whole thing and we had some great conversation at dinner. We love having Craig home to eat with us!
What did I cut out to have this time with my kids? Normally, at this time of day, I would be making dinner, doing chores, and answering emails. I knew I was making an easy dinner, so that helped the situation and the kids had been helping me with my chores all day! It was wonderful! I put off the email answering and enjoyed the time with my kids.
We watched a movie together and my brother came over again for another night of us watching him play PS3! It was nice 🙂
Day 15: Love is Honorable
Today I must choose a way to show honor and respect to my kids that is above my normal routine. It might be putting their clothes away for them or the way I listen or speak to them. I need to show them that they are highly esteemed in my eyes.
Job 40:10
Then adorn yourself with glory and splendor,  and clothe yourself in honor and majesty.
This is what the Kendrick brothers have to say about honor: “To honor someone means to give them respect and high esteem, to treat them as being special and of great worth. When you speak to them, you keep your language clean and understandable. You are courteous and polite. When they speak to you, you take them seriously, giving their words weight and significance. When they ask you to do something, you accommodate them if at all possible, simply out of respect for who they are.”
We all want to be shown that we are honored. The challenge that I have had with my teens is that I have let their words and actions and how they make me feel cloud how I honor them…. and that just makes the situation worse. I cannot control how they talk to me or how they treat me, all that I CAN do is make sure that I am treating them with honor so that I know that I am doing the right thing. It isn’t always easy, but it is what God calls us to do as Christ followers. Satan would love nothing more than for me to get all emotional when one of my kids does something that makes me feel dishonored, but then I would not be honoring them back and the dance would continue. With the leading of the Holy Spirit, He will guide me on how to respond with love and continue to show them honor while at the same time not condoning their actions.
Do you take your kids seriously when they speak to you?
Are you polite to them?
Do you treat them the way you want to be treated?
If you asked them, would they tell you that they feel honored and esteemed by you?
Or…. have you been frustrated with their behaviors for so long that your interactions with them now are not what you want them to be?
I have found that when I get to that point, I need to surrender it all to the Lord and every time he has pointed me back to honor. I’m sure you could all understand how over whelming a household with 5 teens could be, right? …easy for me to lose perspective, get caught up in emotions and feelings and react in ways that would not honor God. Well, that is easy to do around here, and I’m sure it is in your house, too….. we all have a million stressors pulling at us everyday, threatening us to NOT be our best for our families.
But…. God is calling us to do more and be more! He is calling us to be intentional about how we treat those closest to us and to show them honor in all circumstances. In doing so, we bring honor to Him and His Kingdom!!! I need to be able to feel good at the end of the day that all I did honored my Lord, and I can’t say that if I am bound up by all of my hurts, rejections, frustrations and anger.
What does this look like for you? Hoe does this look in your house? Do you have any behaviors you can change today to help show honor to those you love?
Dear Lord, I thank you for this journey and for being with me every step of the way! Today is a busy one with work, a wedding and the all-nighter at Church for the High School kids! Lord, help me to be intentional about showing honor to my kids today and every day forward. Help me to continue to seek YOU when I need to feel restored to be all I can be for Your Kingdom. Lord, please give revelation where it is needed to my dear friends who are struggling with showing honor to their kids….. you know their circumstances and I pray you are able to heal their hearts and help them move forward to restore their relationships. I love you Lord and I thank you for all you are and all you will do. In Your Son’s matchless name I pray, amen.


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  • 1. Shelley  |  January 2, 2012 at 9:42 am

    Wow. I’m really overwhelmed by how much effort and love you put into your family. I’ve never seen anyone do that before in the way you do. Maybe it’s because I have young kids and so do my friends, but the way you parent is so thoughtful and lovely it gives me pause. I wonder how and if I can create that honor in a house with a 6 yr old who I’m having to discipline. My struggle is I don’t always know how harshly I should address inappropriate behavior. Thank you for going ahead of me so I will have someone to lean on in the teenage years that are coming 😉

  • 2. megansmidt  |  January 2, 2012 at 9:55 am

    Satan tries really hard to keep us from sharing our parenting struggles with one another to make us feel alone and crazy! I certainly don;t have all the parenting answers, but what I do have is a desire to always be better. I try to take cues from my kids and I re-adjust constantly. I let the Holy Spirit lead me…. He never steers me wrong!

    It was certainly easier when they were younger, but I find that as I mature in my walk with the Lord, He gives me so much insight into how to really understand my kids and the what makes them tick. I try to be fair, but firm, and the biggest thing for me was learning not to take things they do as a personal offense. Its not about ME!!!

    You are a wonderful mother, Shelley, and you are giving your kids the best gift by showing them our most awesome God! Love you!!!


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