Loving My Husband Intentionally: Love Dare Day 28

June 10, 2012 at 6:00 am 5 comments

Day 27: Love Encourages

Today I must vow to eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectations in my home. I must think of one area where my husband has told me that I am expecting too much, and tell him I am sorry for being so hard on him about it. I must promise him  I will seek to understand, and assure him of my unconditional love.

We had a really nice day today exploring Ridgway some more and seeing family. The Day had a little rough start when I got attacked by my Aunt Nina’s dog, Max. I have PTSD when it comes to a dog being aggressive. I felt the panic coming on when the dog was aggressively barking at me, so I tried to leave. As I was walking out of her house, the dog bit me twice on the back of my leg. It didn’t break the skin and I was not hurt at all, but this sent me into full panic mode…. and I think the whole town heard me!

It took me quite awhile to pull myself together. I couldn’t breathe or stop crying. We went to Main Street, Ridgway and had some retail therapy. Craig was so sweet…. every store we went into, he kept trying to buy me things… he felt so helpless! I ended up getting a beautiful necklace and most amazing peacock pin I have ever seen. He is so good to me. 🙂

We had lunch and drove around some more….. this town really is so adorable and everyone is so nice.

           

In the afternoon, I think about 3/4 of the town came to where we have been staying for Steven Mitchell’s high school graduation party! It was great to see everyone again and the kids had a great time! I got to explore their property a bit more had a great time taking pictures. We tried to look into the house across the street because I feel a very strong connection to it, but have not been able to look inside. It is a gorgeous Victorian home….. I have loved it for several years. Who knows how the Lord will lead?

The only unrealistic expectation that Craig has shared with me is how I want him to just be able to look around and KNOW what needs to get done around the house and just do it. It’s every wife’s dream, right? Well, he told me early on that he does not ever notice those things and that if  I give him a list he will absolutely  make sure that everything on the list gets done. As much as I would love for him to notice things and just do it, I have started to tell him what I need him to do and that works out well. He always gets it done… and that is what matters, right?

It really is all about communication and loving your partner as they are. Craig was up front with me and told me what he is and is not capable of with this. THIS leaves me with two choices:

1. I can keep expecting him to do what he has told me he is not capable of doing and get disappointed over and over again which will make us both feel miserable

or

2. I can give him a list or ask him to do a, b, and c and the items will get done and we will both feel good.

I’ll stick with #2 🙂

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Day 28: Love Makes Sacrifices

What is one of the greatest needs in Craig’s life right now? Is there a need I could lift from his shoulders today by a daring act of sacrifice on my part? Whether the need is big or small, I must purpose to do what I can to meet the need.

1 John 3:16

This is how we have come to know love: He laid down His life for us.

We should also lay down our lives for our brothers.

The Kendrick brothers do a great job at bringing light to this awesome way of showing love to your mate. A lot of times we only notice life is hard for them when they start complaining about it. Then, instead of genuinely caring or rushing to help, we might just think they have a bad attitude. The pain and pressure they are under don’t register with us the way it does when it is our own pain and pressure. When we want to complain, we expect everyone to understand and feel sorry for us.

This doesn’t happen when love is at work. Love doesn’t have to be jarred awake by your husband’s obvious signs of distress. Before worries and troubles have begun to bury him,  love has already gone into action mode. It sees the weight beginning to pile up and it sets in to help. That is because love wants you to be sensitive to your mate.

Love makes sacrifices. It keeps you so tuned in to what your husband needs that you often respond without being asked. And when you don’t notice ahead of time and must be told what’s happening, love responds to the heart of the problem.

This is what Jesus did for us… “He laid down His life for us” to show us that “we should also lay down our lives” for others. He taught us that evidence of love is found in seeing a need in others, then doing all we can to satisfy it. “For I was hungry, and you gave Me something to eat; I was thirsty, and you gave Me something to drink; I was a stranger, and you invited Me in; naked, and you clothed Me; I was sick, and you visited Me; I was in prison, and you came to Me.” (Matthew 25:35-36)

***Instead of sitting around upset that he is not treating me the way *I* think he should, I need to let love pick me up out of my self-pity and turn my attention to HIS needs***

Lord, give me Your eyes….. give me Your arms…… give me Your words….. give me Your love!!!

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  • 1. Christi Wilson: Founder, Girlfriends Coffee Hour  |  June 10, 2012 at 9:09 am

    Ih I live this blog today!!! The very last line befote your prayer, says it all!!!! There is much wisdom in those words!!!

    I have to say that I felt your panic with the dog!! Aggressive dogs scare the daylights out if me, but to have one actually bite….oh goodness!!!! (((Hugs))))

    I love the Victorian house!! It is gorgeous!!!!

    Would love to see pics of the necklace too!!!! 🙂

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    • 2. megansmidt  |  June 10, 2012 at 9:34 am

      We got to tour the inside of the house this morning before we left….. INCREDIBLE is the most complete way to describe it. I have no idea what the Lord is up to….. But i feel so connected to this house. I will be happy to post the jewelry pics later…. Gorgeous ❤

      I love that this spoke to your heart today, dear Christi. You are oneincredible woman of God and i am honored to gave you as a friend 🙂

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  • 3. Christi Wilson: Founder, Girlfriends Coffee Hour  |  June 10, 2012 at 9:11 am

    Excuse the typo’s…. My phone has a mind of its own some days!!!! LOL

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  • 4. crwtobias  |  June 10, 2012 at 9:36 am

    I’m with #2; He said he’s not a mind-reader…so true! Omg-so sorry about the dog! I’m glad you’re alright-praise God! I love the house – maybe there is something there…who knows? Pray you’re having a great day and a great trip back!

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    • 5. megansmidt  |  June 10, 2012 at 9:52 am

      God has a perfect plan ❤ my plan isto listen and be obediant to His call. Very sad to leave today, but happy to get home and catch up! Our drive to the airport this morning has been beautiful….. Pennsylvania is one gorgeous state! ❤ i pray your day is amazing, dear friend! 🙂

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