Loving My Husband Intentionally: Love Dare Day 29

June 11, 2012 at 7:37 am Leave a comment

Day 28: Love Makes Sacrifices

What is one of the greatest needs in Craig’s life right now? Is there a need I could lift from his shoulders today by a daring act of sacrifice on my part? Whether the need is big or small, I must purpose to do what I can to meet the need.

Craig and his new friend Duke

We made it back home to Nashville safe and sound and my poor husband leaves again tomorrow morning to go out-of-town to St. Louis until Thursday night. What does Craig need right now???? Encouragement to keep going and to feel safe when he is at home.

We had a nice night last night…… we went to dinner with James and Dustin and watched some television together. I was feeling sad a lot of the day yesterday and he tried to help me put words to how I was feeling, but I wasn’t being much help. I really don’t know why I am feeling sad. God and I have a lot to sort through…. but I love how attentive Craig was to helping me and I did my best to help fill his needs.

I have found that through this Love Dare I am so much less focused on me and my wants and needs and am completely hyper-focused to how Craig is doing and what I can do to help him. I also see that Craig is the same way. I went to take the dirty clothes to the laundry room after we got home last night and he didn’t ask me if he could do it for me, he literally took it out of my hands and brought it into the laundry room for me! THAT is a first, ladies!!!

TIm and Vicky will either get home tonight or tomorrow with my parents. They had a lot of fun in Ridgway yesterday canoeing! I love that they have enjoyed this time with family so much!

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Day 29: Love’s Motivation

Before I see my husband again today, I must pray for him by name and for his needs. Whether it comes easy for me or not, I must say “I love you,” then express love to him in some tangible way. Then, I need to go to God in prayer again, thanking Him for giving me the privilege of loving my husband… unconditionally, the way that He loves all of us.

Ephesians 6:7 (HCSB)

Serve with a good attitude, as to the Lord and not to men
“Love motivated by mere duty cannot hold out for very long. And love that is only motivated by favorable conditions  can never be assured of sufficient oxygen to keep it breathing. Only love that is lifted up as an offering to God…. returned to Him in gratitude for all He has done… is able to sustain itself when all other reasons have lost their ability to energize us.” ~Kendrick brothers
If you are looking for an earthly reward for loving your husband, you will certainly be disappointed.

So…… what motivates you in your marriage?

This question is super important to consider. Think about it…… At the core of your belief-system, is it “all about you?” Maybe, on a good day, you can honestly say that you are very sacrificial (Day 28) towards your spouse and it’s “all about them.” Today’s dare would have you go one step further to realize that it’s “all about God.”

Day 29 of The Love Dare reads, “This change of focus and perspective is crucial for a Christian. Being able to wake up knowing that God is your source and supply—not just of your own needs but also those of your spouse—changes your whole reason for interacting with your mate. No longer is it this imperfect person who decides how much love you’ll show, but rather it’s your omni-perfect God who can use even a flawed person like yourself to bestow loving favor on another.”

It being “all about God” applies to everything—our motivation to work and our attitude towards serving. In everything we say and everything we do, we want to honor the Lord with devotion and sincerity. In marriage that will carry us a long, long way down roads that can sometimes be very difficult. We are to “love anyway” because ultimately it is all for the Lord.

The Paradoxical Commandments by Dr. Kent M. Keith
 People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered. Love them anyway.
 If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds. Think big anyway.
People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.
People really need help but may attack you if you do help them. Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you have anyway.
© Copyright Kent M. Keith 1968, renewed 2001

Really, friends…. it is all about God. The more I remember that; the more I think about that; the more I cling to that—the better.

Is your wife impossible to deal with? Love her anyway. Is your husband ignoring you—showing no interest in you at all? Love him anyway. “Only love that is lifted up as an offering to God—returned to Him in gratitude for all He’s done—is able to sustain itself when all other reasons have lost their ability to energize us.” (p. 143)

If the motivation for your love is founded on God, your ability to love is unlimited. That is because He is love, and all love comes from Him.

Wow!!! I DO NOT want to leave my love to chance and hope for the best. I am committed to INTENTIONALLY give my husband the best love I possibly can…. and to do so, I know I must shoot for love’s highest motivation. Love that has God as its primary focus is UNLIMITED in the heights it can attain. When God is my reason for loving, my ability to love is guaranteed. AMEN!!!!

Dear Lord, as we all pray for our husbands today and for their needs, I ask that you show us so clearly what YOU want us to see. Help us to love as you do, dear father, and do not let our expectations of them be of this fallen world. Help us to see our husbands as You see them and love them just as they are. Help us to love them because of who they are….. Your perfect creation. Make the three words “I love you” flow so sweetly out of our mouths as we dare to intentionally love on our mates today. We love you Lord, and we thank you for this journey. Continue to give us the strength and wisdom we need every day to endure and love so completely as you command. Thank you for letting me love my husband, Lord!!! In Your Son’s name we pray, amen.

Megan :)

Ladies, be encouraged in your marriage here:

www.girlfriendscoffeehour.com

…and get the husband’s point of view from my other-half, Craig, here:

www.adversusmundi.wordpress.com

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