The Resolution for Women: Shhhhhh!

August 8, 2012 at 6:00 am 6 comments

I really, really like to talk.

As I was reading today’s chapter I was reminded of that saying they share in the movie theater… “Silence is golden.”

It is, you know.

Our society want to keep us busy and noisy all the time. Some of my kids can’t handle it when there is no background noise or nothing happening, and I know they are not alone. My Vicky will be running around all day doing a million and one things and when she finally gets a chance to stop and sit on the red sofa, she will turn to me and say “I’m bored.”

We need to stop, my friends. Not only do we need to take time to be still in our bodies, but we need to make sure that when we are sitting down to listen to a dear friend, our spouse, our children, or our boss that we given them 100% of our selves in that moment in time. We need to STOP and shhhhhhh!

How did you do yesterday? Were you able to have that conversation and were you able to really, actively listen? Was it difficult? Were there any uncomfortable pauses?

I ended up having this time with my daughter Vicky. We were sitting on the red sofa having a nice chat about some of the things we were getting done around the house and she started talking to me about our new adventure of homeschooling. She told me that she is excited to begin and that she is a little nervous to see how it all goes. I stayed quiet and she kept talking. She told me how excited she was to look through the books once they get here and that she is hoping that she is able to do a lot of it on her own.

At that, I opened my mouth to tell her that I know she is going to do great and that I love her enthusiasm for getting started.

She smiled and told me how much she is looking forward to having this time with me and that she is glad God brought me to her because I know how to teach her the best.

I told her that I was glad, too.

She then hugged me and asked what else she could do to help me. She also let me know that she is excited to spend tomorrow night with me since she will no longer be going to the middle school group at church (she is a big high schooler now!). She let me know that she wants to play a game with me tomorrow night.

Silence is golden.

On page 118, Priscilla says “…silence is our way of growing deep, of discovering maturity, of exercising the kind of influence God has created us to have on others, as opposed to the destructive, discouraging alternative, “knowing what to say” and “not saying it” at an inappropriate time puts us in a position where- when the time is right for expressing ourselves- our words can yield an extremely positive blessing.”

I don’t know about you, but I want to grow deep. I want my words to matter and I don’t want to spout them off carelessly. I don’t want to live with regret over words spoken or words unspoken. I don’t want my words to be empty. I want them to be full of meaning and resolve. I want my words to reflect my heart and my soul…. and to be a reflection of God’s love.

What would immediately change for the better in my life if I began exercising the spiritual restraint of silence?

I would be happier and the people closest to me would be happier, too! I wouldn’t feel badly about regretting words said out of frustration or anger. My positive words would have more meaning and be heard more because they wouldn’t be surrounded by criticism and negativity.

Dear friends, please make this intentional stand with me today to deliberately keep from saying anything that is best left unsaid. If someone says something unkind to you, don’t retaliate with an inappropriate response. Personally, I am anxious to see how this changes the dynamics of my closest relationships and I can’t wait to hear about how it goes for you as well!

Lord, be with us as we dare to be silent. Help us gain control over our tongues and use our words only to edify and uplift all of the dear souls we come in contact with. Give us Your supernatural strength, Father, to keep us from saying anything that we shouldn’t say, We need Your wisdom, God, and we thank you in advance for how you will help us tame our tongues. In Your dear Son’s name I pray, amen ❤


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  • 1. coleen  |  August 8, 2012 at 7:05 am

    so happy to read of your listening time with your vicky! “…she is glad that God brought me (you) to her ’cause i (you) know how to teach her best…”!!!!!!! megan, you must have been SHOUTING on the inside while quiet on the outside! i am just praising God for His powerful, bountiful blessing on your&your girl’s relationship…how good He is! oh, and how much you can teach her about a woman & her words by your example. ❤

  • 2. megansmidt  |  August 8, 2012 at 7:37 am

    It so blessed my heart, Coleen!!! Everyday she amazes me more and more and I am so excited to see the Lord work through her! She has such a beautiful annointing and watching her relationship with the Lord deepen just melts my heart!!! I am one happy mama 🙂

  • 3. karen  |  August 8, 2012 at 7:42 am

    this was beautiful, it is the first time i read one of these…i agree is something we all do often talk without direction and sometimes hurt with our words…. just like you said instead of saying negative things, to try and be possitive even when the other person is not. God is patient and wise, full of love to those who love him. thank u megan God bless.

  • 4. Cynda  |  August 8, 2012 at 8:13 am

    Megan, you are inspiring! Love what happened in your conversation with Vicky<3. I too want my words to matter. I am so guilty of jumping in, adding my two sense worth, trying to draw the attention back to me. So many times my words were hateful or hurtful, critical & negative. I do not want to regret the words I speak. You are right, the people around me will be happier & so will I the more I discipline myself to listen, listen, listen. I am intentionally going to take this stand! Thank you for your sweet words of inspiration 🙂

  • 5. robinjp7  |  August 8, 2012 at 9:34 am

    Wise words from a wise woman. The Lord is reminding me to “be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger”. I do this when listening to my clients, but need to remember to extend it to friends and family. Your Vicky sounds very sweet, prayerfully she and my Paris can meet one day!.

  • 6. Christi Wilson: Founder, Girlfriends Coffee Hour  |  August 8, 2012 at 12:57 pm

    It sounds like you have an amazingly beautiful relationship with your daughter! I know that I need to work on my listening skills. I have a problem of jumping in too quickly, as well. But I do have to say that the last 2 days that my little brother was here, we had the most amazing time together! He opened up to me about many areas that we’ve never been able to discuss before. One of which is religion and what we believes in and doesn’t believe it. This was very enlightening to me. I was able to sit and listen, and not immediately jump in and point out wrong thinking…. I let him “TALK”, and he then was a lot more receptive to hearing my thoughts about a relationship with Christ, as well. So God used that time to plant some seeds. I also told him that when he was 5 yrs old, God showed me that he was going to be a Man of God. He then told me that just a couple of days before, he had told someone that he was thinking about going to school to become a Pastor so he could learn about other religions. WOW! All I can do is continue to pray for him, and ask the Lord to show Himself to Michael in ways he’s never seen before! I just praise God that He told to keep my mouth shut, and speak only when it was time to speak. This kid opened up more than he EVER has, and even before he left he told me how much he enjoyed our visit, and was really happy that we got to spend this time together! I was very blessed by that time, as well. I have a lot to learn and work on when it comes to Listening, but I know with the Lord’s help, it will happen!


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